Breath freely: with closeness and space.


Many people I work with are capable and thoughtful — yet struggle with shame based anxiety, self-esteem, or being close to others.

Often, their nervous system learned early that staying guarded or over-attuned was safer than being fully seen.

In our work, we don’t rush to change you.
We focus on understanding what protected you — and gently building new options, at your pace.

Not perfection. Not performance. Not constant confidence.

Just step by step, learning to feel a relief of knowing: you don’t have to earn your place. You already belong.

Maryna Saienko

Cognitive Behavioral Hypnotherapist

Specialist in Self-Esteem and Social Anxiety

It might be helpful if you experience...
  • Low Self Esteem

    You achieve, prepare, and strive

    — yet still feel not good enough inside.

  • Social Anxiety

    You worry about how you come across. Conversations replay long after they end.

  • Anxious attachment style

    You work hard to keep the connection. Distance feels threatening, and your worth can depend on reassurance.

  • Avoidant attachment style

    You value independence and control. Closeness can feel intrusive, even when you care deeply.
Our Work Is Private.
Some Clients Choose to Share.
Yuli Brava
Psychologist. Instagram: juli.brava
When I spoke to Mary at first, I felt such a lightness from her. Calmness. And that feeling transferred to me. In the hypnotherapy sessions, we gently delved into the situations remained unresolved for so long. All the time I felt accepted as I am. I appreciate the soft and precise approach we worked with. Mary's work is special and very personal.
Kateryna Goriaieva
Architect, Interior Designer, Founder of kidesign.com.ua
Mary, I want to express my gratitude for the profound work we've done together.
Your ability to empathize and address interpersonal issues is impressive. The impact of our work on the behavioral level continues to impress me. And I find myself revisiting the notes from our meetings in my notebook. I can feel a sense of release—like the significant problem that weighed heavily on me has gone.
Elnara Nuriieva
CrossMedia Activist, Author and Publicist Insta: Elnara.Letova
My sessions with Mary were truly meaningful. I would recommend her to anyone looking for clarity around repeating patterns in relationships — not only romantic ones, but in everyday interactions as well. As things became clearer, my behaviour began to shift almost naturally. I’m very grateful for the depth of our work and for the steady, thoughtful guidance I received.
Ksenia Lukianova
 Head of Products, Business Coach, Insta: Lukianova.kv
The significant event during six-month of sabbatical was my work with Mary. All my endless self-examinations began quickly take shape into a clear picture. Gradually, a solid ground starts to appear, and the sense of being here and now, along with a clearer view of the future. Mary has a unique ability to soften you enough to see what you avoid to see. The essence that prevents a change. You think you've found the answer, but it turns out to be just another false belief. Mary guides you through those until you reach the pure and real. And when you realize that about yourself, your next plan becomes obvious.
Alisson Marques
Content Creator Insta: Alisson.now
I am in the process of a career change to finally pursue a project I have always dreamed of. Mary helped me organize my thoughts during this challenging time, highlighting aspects I hadn't noticed before. She made me feel very comfortable throughout the session, and I left feeling lighter and more focused on my goals. In just few sessions, I learned a lot about my strengths and weaknesses, found comfortable living strategy and new lifechanging ideas. Mary is an excellent professional; I highly recommend her.
Katie Mekhed
Entrepreneur, Mom Insta: ekaterina_mekhed

Mary is the soul and the heart! She helped me believe in myself again, understand myself better, and stop being scared to do something new and act, so after that, I opened the shop and remembered what she told me to keep attention to. Thank you very much, your words still lead my way. You helped me a lot. I recommend you to my friends.
Lucrezia Crezialu
Chef, Live Performer Insta: crezialucrez
I am happy to share my positive experience with Mary. I met her being completely tired, lost, and exhausted. She was able to identify the aspects I wanted to change and guided me through a path of personal growth. She has provided me with incredible support in understanding my goals and defining what I want to achieve in life. Thanks to her guidance, I gained greater awareness and clarity on the changes I want to make.
Her empathic listening skills and expertise in providing personalized tools and strategies enabled me to overcome my uncertainties and achieve new goals.
I am grateful to Mary for helping me transform my life and would highly recommend her services to anyone seeking a positive change.

Olga Bondareva
Hypnosis Psychotherapist, Insta: olga_therapist
Mary is an extraordinary individual; meeting her was special to me. She wants not just to solve a task, she has a genuine desire to delve into the most hidden corners of the mind.
A distinguishing feature of Mary was her deep internal quest. Instead of merely solving everyday problems, she aimed inward, setting herself on the task of understanding the roots of pain and fear within human existence. This set her apart from the standard inquiries I usually encounter.
When Mary expressed interest in further education, I saw her as a creative individual ready to explore new horizons. Discovery was innate to her, and her results in the learning process only confirmed this fact.
She became a student who not only learned but also constructively applied her knowledge. Mary learned not only to see the truth in her personal experiences but also to patiently and consciously find the path to truth for her clients.
Being part of her educational journey was effortless because she brought not only detail and depth to the process but also the joy of discovering something new. And today she is helping others find their truth.
Ocama
Animal Rights Activist, Content Creator Insta: zoro_9483
I totally recommend Mary as a Coach, she was very helpful and knowledgeable that helped me to overcome my doubts about myself.
I was afraid to ask her for appointments in the beginning. However, it was totally worth trying. Absolutely grateful for her emphatic guidance. Still practicing those tools and ideas. I would say something she is doing much deeper than I thought. No spoilers, just try it out.
Nikita L.
Software Developer, Entrepreneur
Insta: tov_nixon
Mary's guidance has been truly important to me. I struggled with self-doubt and hesitation in presenting myself, which hindered my ability to share my knowledge and help others. She helped me understand my fears and create a manageable plan to step into my productivity. Her genuine care and commitment to her work are present in every session. She doesn't just provide support or pocket psychology; she creates a nurturing environment where profound change happens.
Anonymous
I met Mary during the hardest period in my life. I lost everything, including my self-worth, everything was spiraling downwards. Mary helped me to forgive myself by teaching me how to practice self-compassion and share responsibility with others and life. I was able to stop my destructive self-blame, find new meaning. I’ve been sober for a month now, feeling a profound understanding of how and why I ended up in that dark place. No fear or regret, just moving forward.

The practice here is like...

Most of the patterns you struggle with began as intelligent adaptations. At some point in your life, they brought safety or a sense of control. Some people found that distance protects them. Others realized that closeness must be secured at any cost. None of these patterns are bad. They are just not updated for your current life.

Attachment tendencies, self-esteem struggles, and social anxiety are not fixed identities. They are learned predictive systems.
When the nervous system expects rejection, it scans for it, becomes more sensitive. When self-worth depends on achievement or approval, it works tirelessly to prevent exposure, becomes more goal-oriented.

These strategies can build qualities for impressive careers — and bring quiet exhaustion.

In our work, we do not fight what once protected you.

We understand it first — so we can choose the most effective way forward together. Usually it is about strategy with compassion. But anyway through focused attention, guided imagery, and carefully discussed behavioral experiments, we update the brain’s expectations of safety. New responses are practiced gradually, so change feels integrated rather than forced.

You remain in control throughout the process. We work collaboratively to understand what causes distress, to build mental self-support system and emotional regulation, to question unhelpful beliefs, and to change the reactions that keep you hurt. You leave each session with clarity — what we are working on, why it matters, and what to practice next.

Hypnotherapy is used as a learning space — like guided rehearsal. Similar to how athletes imagine performance before competition, we practise new emotional and behavioral responses in a structured, safe way. Not catharsis. Not regression. Gradual learning of new amazing pathways.

This work is grounded in well-established psychological theory. We focus on your unique patterns today rather than fitting you into labels.

The past may be interesting, but change happens in how you respond now. We rely on learning theory and brain plasticity — and on acceptance and commitment to what truly matters in your life. Ans sure we can talk about the past. Just our past does not have to define our future.

Why CBH?
From self-doubt and social anxiety
to steady confidence and secure relationships.
  • Cognitive Therapy (CBT)
    We identify the patterns that fuel anxiety, self-criticism, and relationship insecurity. You learn to question unhelpful beliefs and build a more balanced, stable sense of self.
  • Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
    Avoidance and reassurance keep anxiety alive. Through gradual, planned experiments, you build real-world confidence and update the brain’s expectation of rejection.
  • Acceptance & Commitment Therapy (ACT)
    Instead of fighting thoughts or feelings, you learn to relate to them differently — and act according to your values, even when discomfort shows up.
  • Assertiveness Training
    You learn to express needs, limits, and preferences clearly and respectfully. Step by step, we practise communication that reduces fear of conflict, people-pleasing, and emotional withdrawal.
  • Attachment and Mindfulness-Informed Work
    We explore patterns of closeness, distance, and boundaries in relationships. We strengthen the capacity to observe reactions without being controlled by them. You build security and emotional regulation, while less overthinking in the process.
  • Clinical Hypnotherapy
    Used as structured mental rehearsal. In focused, relaxed states, you practice new emotional and social responses safely — supporting learning through neuroplasticity and relapse prevention.
Pricing
Personal one-on-one online sessions.
FIRST CALL
Obligation free. It is our time to see if CBH is a good fit for your goals and if we can do it together.
Free
20 min
ASSESSMENT Session
Assessment in CBH is where we understand your reasons, needs, and goals. We gently clarify patterns, triggers, priorities. We create a shared idea and discussing future sessions so therapy is safe, collaborative, personal, outcome-oriented from the very beginning. We start by an evidence-based exercise to regulate nervous system: by learning physical or cognitive relaxation. You leave with a new practice that can influence your every next day.
190 €
120 min
CBH SESSION
Sessions may include cognitive restructuring, Behavioral planning, guided mental rehearsal, or emotional regulation work. You leave with clarity — what shifted, what we are testing next, and one practical step to apply in daily life. Over time, you learn to think and respond like your own therapist. The skills become transferable, so you can scale them to new situations and other areas of life with increasing confidence and flexibility.
120 €
70 min
CLARITY/safety SESSION
This session includes shortened assessment session and full hypnotherapy session. It helps you navigate crises or prevent relapse by tapping into your inner strength, clarifying your priorities, and building resilience. We’ll focus on developing problem-solving skills and reigniting motivation, empowering you to move forward with confidence.
250 €
120 min
You don’t need a label to start. If something here resonates, that’s enough.

I am happy to offer calm and collaborative support for your happy, healthy interactions without shame, tension and anxiety.
See if it feels right
Cancelation Policy
I understand that life circumstances may require adjustments to your scheduled session. Please note my cancellation policy below:

  • Cancellation Notice: Please provide at least 24 hours' notice if you need to cancel or reschedule your appointment.
  • Late Cancellation/No Show: Appointments canceled with less than 24 hours' notice or missed appointments (no show) will be charged the full session fee.
  • Emergency Situations: I understand emergencies happen. If you have a sudden, unavoidable circumstance, please notify me as soon as possible to discuss your situation.
  • Payment: Cancellation fees are due at the time of your next scheduled appointment.
Thank you for your understanding and cooperation. This policy ensures that I can effectively manage my schedule and continue providing quality care to all of my clients.
Contact:
SaienkoMary@gmail.com
MaryWhy.com
Berlin, Germany
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